Thursday, January 3, 2019

Where has time gone?

Hello there...I have crept back into this space after four years away. I still can't believe it has been that long! A lot has changed since then. We are not even living in the same state anymore! And have completely changed directions as far as jobs. We are still in agriculture, but currently not farming crops like we were.

In December of 2016, we packed up and moved to northwest Arkansas. We bought a poultry farm and have been growing broilers for the last two years. We wanted to do something that the kids could help more in and could be more family focused. The first half of 2017 was focused on learning all we could about raising chickens. By June we thought we were ready to add something else into the mix. We started the process to be licensed for fostering. We had actually gone through the licensing process in Arizona, but then ended up selling and moving. We opened our home in November. We have had over 15 kids in our home over that year. Some it was just for a night or two. Others it was a weekend or a few weeks. We had a brother and sister for 5 1/2 months. They were able to go home to their mom at the end of the school year. I have to say that 5 1/2 month period of time was one of the hardest and most stretching our family as a whole has ever experienced.

The real heroes in this whole journey has been our kids. We picked up and moved from the only home they had ever known- from grandparents, friends that were like family, and the only church they had ever known and dropped them into a completely new area. It doesn't look like Arizona, we knew no one in the area, had no family, no connections-it has been hard. And to be honest, in only the last few months, have I actually started to feel the loss and grieve the moving. I know that probably sounds strange, but I think I was trying so hard to keep it together and be strong for our kids, because it was really hard for them. Plus, we were learning a whole new business, which was stressful for my husband. But we persevered. We made mistakes, but have stuck with it. Our kids are learning the value of hard work, of trying new things, of being responsible. These are all values that we wanted to instill in them. We have spent more time as a family than we ever have. We work together, play together, school together and basically, you know it-do everything together. They have become each other's best friends.

Not that everything is perfect. Yes, we spend a lot of time together and they have become each other's best friends, but they also know how to annoy and drive each other crazy the best too! But growing together has been wonderful. I'm so thankful we have been able to experience that as a family.

I've been feeling the nudge to start writing again. I'm not even sure how many read blogs anymore...and that's ok. I want to keep better record of our journey. Of my journey. I feel like the last two years have been hidden, that our family, and myself personally, have been in the dark, waiting to birth something new. And I don't want to miss it.

2 comments:

Sonia said...

Hi Laura,
Its great to hear from you again.
I've been wondering the same thing about blogs. Haven't blogged in two years, feeling like I have nothing to say that folks would be interested in or don't want to argue with the wind. Thanks for jumping back in!!

Em is working with Arizona Baptist Children's Services as a parent aide so while we're not fostering she is in the midst of supervising visits. I don't know if you seen "Instant Family" and while its got quite a bit of language and isn't from a Christian perspective specifically, she cried most of the movie. Worth a look. Our church is making up backpacks for foster kids as one of our missions projects now.

Love you all. Look forward to hearing from you now and then.
Sonia

Laura said...

Sonia! Great to hear from you! What Emily is doing is such an important job. I'm sure she gets to see all kinds of things, but hopefully those visits are more often positive than negative. We fostered for about a year. We actually just closed in November. We had come up for renewal and it seemed like a natural place to stop. One thing I have learned with fostering is that having a support system is so key! And being in a new area with no family and really no friends that we would be comfortable asking to help, it was completely overwhelming! And what your church is doing is great. There are so many ways to support and encourage the foster community, but it just requires taking the time.
Hope you all are doing well!